How to Stay Motivated When You Feel Like Giving Up
- Evelin Bandeira
- Mar 13
- 4 min read
We've all been there — standing at the edge of giving up, feeling like the weight of the world is too heavy to carry. I know this feeling all too well. It's a place I've visited more times than I'd like to admit, but it's also where I've found my greatest strength. Today, I want to share my story and some practical tips to help you stay motivated, even when the road ahead feels impossible.

The Moments That Tested Me
My journey hasn't been a straight path. And like everyone else, I felt like I was running in circles, chasing dreams that seemed to come true. The pressure of failure, the fear of judgment, and the exhaustion of trying so hard with little to show for it — it all felt like too much.
And things didn't change overnight for me. Took me years to get a steady job in dance, and even more to be recognized. But it all happened only because I persisted. Giving up wasn't an option because I owed it to myself to keep going, even though I felt like I couldn't do it anymore.
How did I do it/ What got me through and has been helping me now?
Motivation vs. Discipline: The Real Secret to Staying on Track
One of the most profound lessons I've learned is the difference between motivation and discipline. Motivation is the spark that ignites action, but discipline is the fuel that keeps you going when the spark fades.
Motivation is fleeting — it's that burst of energy you feel when you set a new goal or watch an inspiring video. But discipline is what carries you through the mundane, the difficult, and the downright exhausting moments. It's about showing up even when you don't feel like it.
For me, this realization was a game-changer. I stopped waiting to "feel motivated" and started building habits rooted in discipline. Whether it was writing 500 words a day, exercising three times a week, or simply showing up for myself when things got tough, discipline became my lifeline.
Transforming Problems into Opportunities
Another powerful lesson I've learned was that every problem is an opportunity in disguise.
When I faced setbacks — whether it was a failed project, a missed opportunity, or a personal loss — I started asking myself, "What can I learn from this? How can I grow?". This shift in mindset helped me see challenges not as roadblocks but as stepping stones.
Tips to Stay Motivated, Build Discipline, and Transform Challenges that are Doable
Through my struggles, I've learned that staying motivated, building discipline, and transforming challenges into opportunities are interconnected. Here are some strategies that have helped me stay on track, even in my darkest moments:
Through my struggles, I've learned that motivation isn't something you find — it's something you create. Here are some strategies that have helped me stay motivated, even in my darkest moments:
1. Reconnect with Your “Why”
When you feel like giving up, go back to the reason you started. Write it down, say it out loud, or create a vision board. Your “why” is your Northern Star, guiding you through the storm.
2. Break It Down into Small Steps
Overwhelm is a motivation killer. Instead of focusing on the big picture, break your goals into smaller, manageable tasks. Celebrate each small win — it's proof that you’re moving forward.
3. Rely on Discipline, Not Just Motivation
As I said before, I learned that discipline is what sustains progress. Create a routine and stick to it, even on days when motivation is low. Action often leads to motivation, not the other way around.
4. Transform Problems into Opportunities
Reframe your challenges. Ask yourself, “What can I learn from this? How can I grow?” — this mindset shift can turn setbacks into powerful catalysts for growth. Trust me!
5. Give Yourself Grace
It's okay to feel tired, frustrated, or even lost. Acknowledge your feelings without judgment, and remind yourself that setbacks are part of the journey. Be kind to yourself — you're doing the best you can. Negative self-talk never worked before, right? Start by talking kind to yourself and watch the change unfold.
The Light at the End of the Tunnel
Looking back, I’m grateful for every moment I wanted to give up because those moments taught me resilience. They showed me that I'm stronger than I thought and that every step forward, no matter how small, is progress.
If you're feeling like giving up today, I want you to know this: you are not alone. Your struggles do not define you, and your dreams are worth fighting for. Take a deep breath, reconnect with your “why,” and take one small step forward. You've got this.
Staying motivated isn't about never feeling like giving up — it's about finding the strength to keep going despite those feelings. It's discipline! My journey has been far from perfect, but it's mine, and it's taught me that even in the hardest moments, there's hope.
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